Oh the Tangled Web We Weave

Why do people feel the need to lie? About important stuff? About trivial stuff? About Anything!?! Lying doesn't do anything to endear the liar to the general population as a whole. It doesn't make a person look better, smarter, or cool. It serves as a toxin to our lives and diminishes our capacity to trust and ultimately to love the liar. So why do it? I'm not talking about the "do I look fat" "of course you don't" types of lies that are supposed to buffer the asker from hurt feelings. But in all honesty, aren't allowing even these lies enabling a person to lie about more important stuff?And why tolerate these lies? Why should we walk around and keep pretending that these lies aren't harmful and hurtful? And not just to the people who are lied too, but also the liar. Liars cannot be trusted because a person never knows when they are being honest. A liar gets hurt because after a few lies they are never believed (remember the boy who cried wolf?). But how do we address these lies? Do we only retaliate against the lies that are most harmful to us? Do we ignore them altogether and just dismiss it as yet just another reason to not trust the person? And why do people lie about us? Is it to hurt us specifically? Or is that merely a perk of being lied about? I would like to believe that people who lie don't intentionally mean to hurt people, but can't seem to understand that in trying to make themselves look better get even more people hurt. But I really don't see that as the case. Probably because I'm constantly being lied about and lied too. It's pathetic. Really. I'm not saying that I have never lied...sure I have. Just like I have hurt some people with those lies. BUT as self-righteous as it makes me sound, I don't do it anymore. I don't lie to my husband about whether or not that last time in bed was a good one (that wouldn't do either one of us any good), I don't lie to my children about what happens when a person dies, I don't set out every morning with the idea that I need to hurt someone today. So WHY do people feel the need to do it to me....or about me? And I am talking about one specific person in this next part....but I think that the idea as a whole applies to a lot of people. Why does she think that by lying about me, that's she's making herself look better? It's not just hurting me, it's hurting my husband and my kids. With every lie she tells about me is not simply making me look bad - which at first is does until Jason realizes that he knows me and the kind of person that I am. It's ultimately making him realize that NOTHING she has ever told him was the trurth. And that not only makes HER look bad....but it hurts Jason. Because who wants to realize that they can't trust someone they love? In her attempt to justify her position with lies, she's solidifying in his mind that maybe she was wrong in a lot more stuff that has nothing to do with me. I hate sitting here watching what lies are doing to my family. Because they are hurting us. It's putting all of us under stress all because she can't be honest and admit that she's wrong. Which is the 1 reason that she won't talk. Confront me, and every thing comes out in the open. She's much better off hiding behind her veil of lies....It must truly suck to be that old, and not only a liar but a bitter liar to boot. I'm glad for nothing else that no matter what...when I stand at the gates of heaven on Judgement Day I can truly say that I tried...What can she say? Only that she lied.